Dependency

Actor Will Smith just recently appeared on the Red Table Talk, while having a conversation, he stated that as Jada’s husband it was Not his job to Make Her Happy. He stated that her happiness being based on him was a lot of pressure to put on an individual and that he was there to Add to her happiness. I could not agree more; though initially that was not my mindset. I went through some growing pains before figuring that out. I can recall a time when my husband and I would argue (while dating) and how it would affect my mood for the entire day until we resolved the issue. I was basing my happiness on rather we were in a good space or not. A lot of hours were wasted. Instead of just taking those moments for what they were, being pissed in that moment but moving forward about my day in a happy space; I allowed what happened to dictate my mood for the rest of the day. I became Too Dependent On HIM for my Happiness.




We as a people have to be happy within our beings. The people whom we share our lives with should add to that Happiness. It’s sometimes a struggle within us as individuals to ensure our own stability, let alone the stability of others. Are we as Parents too dependent on our children to fulfill voids in our lives; or to do those things in which we did not do (i.e certain careers, life styles)? Are we as friends too dependent on our relationships to give us the confidence we need? Are we as spouses too dependent on each other for our emotional, and mental well being? We have to be the best version of ourselves with or without those around us. Our circle of people should simply boost our morale that’s already a foundation. Help in the area in which we lack and reciprocate the joy we are giving. Find You. Love You. Be You because You’re Enough.



Be the greatest you,
J. Renee

Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

Hebrews 4:16
Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need

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